The #ItsNotRape Twitter tag.
Things are pixelated and censored because I’m using this picture for a school presentation, but really. Ugh.
To them, it’s “it’s not rape until it happens to me.”
fuck that, especially the “dark skin girl.”
FUCK ALL OF THAT.Fuck everyone on that list.
ugh. To everyone on that list
I fucking hate humanity.
Roughly 1 percent of adults in this country are incarcerated. We have 4 percent of the world’s population but 25 percent of its prisoners. No other nation has as large a proportion of its population in prison; even China’s rate is less than half of ours. What’s more, the majority of our prisoners are non-violent offenders, many of them detained on drug charges. (Whether a country that was truly free would criminalize recreational drug use is a related question worth pondering.)
And the full extent of the punishment prisoners face isn’t detailed in any judge’s sentence. More than 100,000 inmates suffer sexual abuse, including rape, each year; some contract HIV as a result. Our country holds at least 25,000 prisoners in isolation in so-called supermax facilities, under conditions that many psychologists say amount to torture.
| — | Kwame Anthony Appiah, What will future generations condemn us for? |
For UCR reporting purposes, can a male be raped?
No. The UCR Program defines forcible rape as “The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will.” In addition, “By definition, sexual attacks on males are excluded from the rape category and must be classified as assaults or other sex offenses depending on the nature of the crime and the extent of injury.
| — | Akiba Solomon, Males Can’t Be “Forcibly Raped”— According to the FBI - COLORLINES |
I didn’t get home until dinnertime. My mother was standing in front of our house. There was no color in her face. Her eyes were blind terror. She swept me into her arms and hugged all the breath out of me. Then she slapped me across the face.
It stung.
…Because of the actions of two completely unknown males in the year 1948, I was slapped across the face and grounded to my room for a week in 1974.
A different way of looking at this is:
I was raised by a woman who was held down in a park and raped when she was a little girl. While the consequences of this event became, for Liz and me, a Grand Duchess Overtone in our upbringing, the two men who raped our mother have no idea either of us exist on the planet to have been raised under the shadow of their action.
A further perspective might be:
A man could, feasibly, sacrifice his coffee break raping a woman.
That woman would then spend her entire life dealing with it.
So would her daughters.
So would theirs.
This distribution of power is unacceptable.
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— Cunt, Inga Muscio. Sorry I’m so slow on the draw today, but if you’re ever feeling exhausted in the middle of a protest, this book will help you to re-frame your thinking and work your energy back up in some really good ways, whether or not you agree with everything she says. I agree with this part right here. And I like that the entire rest of the chapter is about restoring the balance of power in our favor. (via sadydoyle) |
cynicalpink: Just a little visual to remind us exactly who is sponsoring the “It’s Not Rape if You’re Not Bruised and Bleeding” Bill.
Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF) has provided specialized care to 53 women, men, and children who were raped in a series of incidents that occurred between January 19 and 21 in South Kivu Province in the east of the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC).
Most of the rape…
(via last-beautiful-girl)
- Approach gender violence as a MEN’S issue.
- Make sure that the sex you are having is consensual. Do not accept the myth that “no” means “yes”.
- Understand that submission is not consent. Do not make assumptions about consent, ASK for consent.
- Remember that having sex with someone who is drunk* is sexual assault. If an individual is drunk, they cannot legally consent to sex (they cannot make an informed, rational decision).
- Communicate clearly how you feel and what you want. Listen to your partner. Do not rely on body language.
- Do not make assumptions about consent based on style of dress, body language or previous sexual activity. ASK for consent.
- Understand, and help friends understand, that sexual assault is assault, and has little to do with sex.
- Do not remain silent, do not look the other way. Become an “active bystander” – confront friends who are becoming disrespectful or abusive towards women. Intervene when a friend is making a decision that could have devastating consequences.
- Examine your attitudes about women and men that may perpetuate sexism and violence against women.
- Interrupt actions, comments or jokes that support rape and other acts of violence.
If you’re a man reading this, this is what you have to do: you have to make your male friends uncomfortable. You have to bring up this subject out of the blue and tell them everything I just told you. You should especially quiz them on some of the recommendations on the rape prevention list. I don’t give a shit if they look at you funny for it, especially if you believe them to truly be your friends. Addressing and preventing rape requires audacity. And if you encounter a man who consistently refuses to accept some of the arguments outlined in this diary, you should be watching him closely from now on.
| — | C.L. Minou, Tiger Beatdown › All Your Boobs Belong To Us: Some Thoughts About Consent While Female |
